Codependency & Toxic Relationships
Virtual therapy in New York.
“Dr. Ashley turned boundary-setting from a scary concept into a superpower. Her practical advice and compassionate approach have helped me stand firm and communicate my needs effectively. My relationships are healthier and I feel empowered.”
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Trapped in a cycle of anticipation and anxiety?
You’re constantly walking on eggshells, carefully picking your words to avoid setting off your partner.
Maybe you hold off on telling them you’re upset about that snide comment they made, because last time you tried, it spiraled into a huge argument about how you’re too sensitive.
You avoid bringing up plans with your family because you know it’ll just turn into a fight about how they don’t like your partner.
Or maybe you’ve stopped asking for anything altogether—whether it’s a date night or just a few minutes of quiet—because it’s easier to go along with what they want than risk the blowback.
Now, imagine being able to just be in your relationship …
… no more avoiding tough conversations because you know it’ll blow up.
You set boundaries and actually stick to them—like saying “no” to picking up extra shifts at work or refusing to cancel plans with friends just because your partner’s in a bad mood.
You’re not constantly playing out every possible conflict in your head, preparing for the worst-case scenario.
Instead, you’re enjoying your time together, focusing on what you want out of life and the relationship, and feeling an inner calm that you didn’t think was possible.
Why work with me?
It’s easy to feel trapped in a cycle where your partner’s moods dictate your entire day, and where every conversation feels like a potential argument waiting to happen.
I get that.
Maybe you’ve gotten so used to bending to their needs that you’ve forgotten what you actually want.
I’m here to help you find your voice again.
Together, we’ll work on real-world strategies to communicate more effectively, even when the other person gets defensive.
This isn’t about flipping your relationship upside down—it’s about making it healthier, so you can feel at peace in it.
Who this therapy is for:
You bite your tongue around your partner to avoid arguments, and when you finally speak up, it turns into a fight that leaves you exhausted.
You constantly feel like you’re responsible for their happiness, so you keep putting their needs ahead of yours.
Setting boundaries with family, friends, or coworkers feels like it’ll cause too much conflict, so you just keep saying “yes” when you really want to say “no.”
You plan every conversation in your head, bracing for a fight, and it leaves you feeling drained and on edge all the time.
You want a relationship where your needs are heard without defensiveness or guilt.
